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Generally, Mentally Strong People is accepted and respected
like The Hero or Model of everyone. Nobody
wants to be the weakness person, because everyone wants to be accepted from the
their families and socials. We all want
to have values in someone’s life but not everyone that born to be the star, so
we have get in practice and prepare to step up the point of expectation.
Sometimes, we would like to know that anything else that
made up the Mentally Strong People. This
book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," written by Amy
Morin, Psychologist who will take you The Key on how they are the strong ones. Certainly, It's about controlling your
thoughts, behaviors, and emotions…Don’t Do …
The Following are 13 things or Behaviors that mentally
strong people do not do, by Morin.
1. They don't waste time feeling sorry for
themselves
Because if you feel sorry for yourself intensely, it means
that you are creating the negative emotions, more hurts and broken relationships
soon.
You have to set up that you are happy and appreciate what
you have.
2. They don't give away their power
Whenever you feel losing energy and emotion, so your power
is destroying then. This time, other people
will control you by some ways and your mind will be more weakness from time to
time.
Oprah Winfrey that Morin raise up to mind empower the book
reader because Winfrey was dealing with many bad situations but she set her
mind that she will not giving away her power.
Finally she is very famous in this world.
3. They don't shy away from change
Morin said that Change has five stages, pre-contemplation,
contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance. We have to making changes without
shying away from them prevents growth. Morin also said that "The longer
you wait, the harder it gets," she says.
4. They don't focus on things they can't
control
It is so true that Morin saying, "Rather than
focusing on managing your anxiety, you try controlling your environment," You
may take off your focus on things you can't control then your happiness will be
increased, and many things in your life will be beautiful.
5. They don't worry about pleasing everyone
Morin lists four facts of pleasing people, waste time, get
easily to be manipulated, it’s OK for others to be angry or disappointed, and
the truly fact one is we can’t please everyone.
If you drop out of pleasing people format from your mind,
you will be quality stronger one.
6. They don't fear taking calculated risks
Let’s see the Questioning lists from Morin on how to explore
the risk. Because almost people are often afraid to take risks and Morin writes
that A lack of knowledge about how to calculate risk leads to increased fear.
Ask yourself the following questions.
—What are the potential costs?
—What are the potential benefits?
—How will this help me achieve my goal?
—What are the alternatives?
—How good would it be if the best-case scenario came true?
—What is the worst thing that could happen, and how could
I reduce the risk it will occur?
—How bad would it be if the worst-case scenario did come
true?
—How much will this decision matter in five years?
7. They don't dwell on the past
No ones can change The past. You have to prevent yourself from sinking to
the past, but you should enjoy every single moments in the present and planning
for the future as well. Morin saying
that actually, thinking about the past is still have the benefit for life,
because we can take them as the lessens learned, explore the past experiences in
new perspective.
8. They don't make the same mistakes over and
over
We can learn from the mistakes, but lots of mistakes that
is hard for keep more learning. Even the mentally strong people accept
responsibility for the mistakes but they also create a thoughtful, written plan
to protect the situations of mistakes come again and again.
9. They don't resent other people's success
I love this speech of Morin, focusing on another person's
success will not pave the way to your own, since it distracts you from your
path. So, becoming success person, you have not to focusing on others. Just overlook your talents and abandon your
values and relationships.
10. They don't give up after the first failure
Bear in mind that Thinking that failure is unacceptable or
that it means you aren't good enough does not reflect mental strength. Morin writes
"bouncing back after failure will make you stronger,"
11. They don't fear alone time
Sometimes, Alone can create a powerful experience to your
thoughts and bring you reach to the goals.
Morin lists in her book about the benefits of solitude as the following.
—Solitude at the office can increase productivity.
—Alone time may increase your empathy.
—Spending time alone sparks creativity.
—Solitary skills are good for mental health.
—Solitude offers restoration.
12. They don't feel the world owes them
anything
Morin says something about this item, "Life isn't
meant to be fair. Sometimes, we have to deal with happiness moments but
sometimes we have to deal with unhappiness as well. Because of no one is entitled to anything.
You have to create these things for yourself that is
better. For example, focus on your efforts
and accept criticism, If you are still comparing
yourself with others, you will only set you up for disappointment.
13. They don't expect immediate results
The mentally strong people are willing to wait the outcomes
of expectation in realistic situations, so don’t be impatient because it will
be raised up your stress and effect to the mental health.
Just keep your mind to the right processes, looking to your
past until now, and admiring yourself as supporting.
